The need for precious patience when it comes to female arousal

It takes 45 minutes- 1++ years for a woman to open up sexually.

We store memories and emotions in our bodies on a cellular level... in the actual cells of our physical body. So if you have experienced anything uncomfortable or traumatic your body may still be holding on to it.

Our dear vulvas are one of the most sensitive and vulnerable parts of our bodies. The point of entry into our entire physical and energetic being that often propels us into the feminine pole of surrender.

Imagine someone barged into your house without asking. Imagine you invited someone in to your house and then they trashed the place. Imagine you had to let someone into your house because there was some essential work to do but you weren’t all that comfortable with them being there and the noise hurt your ears for the rest of the day. Imagine you let someone into your house but you didn’t really want them there but you didn’t feel you could say no. Imagine you trusted someone to come into your house and they disrespect you. Imagine someone broke into your house and seriously hurt you.

All these instances have the potential for making you feel unsafe in your own home.

All penetration of the vulva that isn’t fully consensual has the potential to make you feel unsafe in your body.

And what the the body and the vulva need to feel sensual and sexy and pleasurable... is SAFETY!

Excessively rubbing the clitoris will not open you up sexually.

Trying different positions will not open you up sexually.

Buying a new vibrator will not open you up sexually.

Showering yourself with love and adoration will.

Building a healthy relationship with your body that makes it safe to be in will.

Setting and asserting boundaries for yourself to enable you to heal will.

Creating a safe space for your heart and body to gently unravel and flourish will.

This relationship starts with the most important person, you!

The rest can come later.