The Sacred Art of Spanking to connect to your inner Feminine
Seconds feel like hours, my breath suspended in time, engulfed in the ecstasy of anticipation that lingers in the air before the paddle rains down on my bare flesh. Fiery jolts send shockwaves through my body once again reminding me that nothing else exists except for this very moment.
As my body lays writhing in the electrical currents pain merges with pleasure and I surrender myself at the complete mercy of the eyes that lean over me burning into mine. The gaze that seals this sacred contract.
Spanking, flogging, whipping, whatever you want to call it is the practice of being hit or smacked by another across the bare buttocks.
This is not so much a practice that is about having sex. It is a sacred and intimate contract between two consenting adults to play with the energies of domination, control, submission and surrender.
When practiced intentionally and consensually spanking can become a deeply embodied act that cultivates intense presence and even altered states of consciousness.
It can be incredibly powerful especially for women who have difficulty letting go of control and dropping in to their feminine. It can also support the building of trust and communication between partners. Plus, when done right, it’s incredibly exciting and erotic!
Some things to consider when practicing the sacred art of spanking:
SAFETY - work with someone experienced or do some research to check on the correct places to make contact with the skin. Avoid contact with genitals and test different flogging/ spanking devices first so you get a feel for the sensations that feel right for you.
TRUST - practice with someone you trust. Spanking can also help you move into deeper trust with a partner. Also make sure you’re in a place of trusting yourself; your “YES’s” and your “NO’s”.
CONSENT AND BOUNDARIES- have a conversation beforehand as to what each of your boundaries are and what you agree/consent to.
COMMUNICATION - as above but also communicate throughout. Agree on a system to share pain threshold. Some common ones are traffic lights; green means you’re all good, amber is feeling it but can still go for more, red means STOP. Or numbers 1-10, 1 being low pain, 10 being max. Make sure your flogger knows when you are close to max and definitely STOP at max!
When these things are present it allows you to drop into this practice as a sacred art, a sacred practice and explore your resistance to surrender and receive.
Be safe and enjoy!